Saturday, November 20, 2010

Wesley

Hi guys, remember Wesley?

Yesterday I called him. More than a year later. And I didn't even mention his disappearance. It was just a normal conversation, as if nothing had happened. Half an hour later on, he mentioned that he knew he had disappeared, and that it was his fault. But I was not interested in that... I know what happened. He prefered to be friends with a couple of sadistic idiots than to me. His loss...

About Eric, we are going through a rocky phase (just now? Really Adam?). He is so obviously uninterested (sexually), that it's out in the open. We talked last night and he aknowledges that it's been very difficult to him, that guilt and shame have been too hard for him, and that he does not know how to spare me from his own internal battles. I think, actually, that, even though it's very hard, and makes me feel awful, that it comes from love... And that he's been fighting hard. And that for now, it's been forbearable enough for me to stay...

6 comments:

  1. regarding wesley ... you are right, it is their loss. some men (and many women) are attracted to the butch man that treats them like crap.

    eric ..... to stay or go is for you to decide and know. but i think that it is important if you go. you just go and do so before you meet someone else. IT IS OK FOR YOU TO BE ALONE. it will not be forever.

    fyi -- i am getting ready to blog a little about thanksgiving. this is the wonderful other year that we do not go with Jay's family. It was wonderful !!

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  2. oh !! i like the new look of the blog. lots of good energy.

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  3. sorry i have been gone. had the time of my life, but i am back and will catch up soon with all these great blogs!!

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  4. I am sorry too, Marie.

    I feel like a deadbeat dad to my own blog!!!

    I hope to blog again soon, but I have to first deal with some stuff of my own... on my own

    love you!!!

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  5. this is marie,

    somehow i can't log in to make a comment as myself.

    i can't say too much about your not being here. it took me almost 6 months to see you posted this comment.

    i was just in the mood to visit your blog. the blogs were a means to an end. i think we are both living fuller lives because of the blogs. and eachother.

    they helped us decide our trajectories.

    i would rather we be happy and too busy to blog, than be here crying and mopping and blogging everyday.

    i can honestly say that i have moments, not every moment of everyday where i stop and say, "i love my life."

    i do not know if i ever felt that contecnt feeling before. somehow the path was the blog and the ski experience.

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